Hi. It’s 11:14 pm, and I just woke up. I hit my bed around 7 pm because I could barely stand still. I definitely feel much better after a good rest.
Do you think people hate children? If not, why is it that people’s idea of disciplining children borders on fear and control? In fact, I believe that they think children should be taught with pure fear and control. In another light, I am still baffled on why … why … why people judge or refer to children by adult standards. I can’t process this. They are children! And we wonder why people grow up depressed, distrustful, or having utterly horrible mindsets. It’s the way they were brought up.
We desperately need an ideology reset.
If you read #40, I mentioned that I was going on a dopamine detox.
Sigh. I’m really at the point of tears.
Anyway, I tried to ease myself into the detox by blocking some websites like Twitter. However, I still had my Tweetdeck available because I created two collections of certain helpful tweets. Unfortunately, I opened a “home” column and saw tweets about a child who was raped. This is really self-centered, but I wish I did not know about the story, and some others that I saw on Twitter today. I really do.
I read more about it and found that the child was not raped, but was involved in sexual activities with some boys around her age. The children were between 10 and 13. Someone recorded it and posted it on Instagram. Then, the video found its way to Twitter by some sick individual. Now, it is spread all over the Internet.
I’m sad to tell you that this is not the worst of it. People, Nigerians, have proceeded to paint the girl in all sorts of ways. “c-owgirl”, apparently representing her “sex position” is trending on Twitter. People are depravedly calling her “wild”. Some are even making jokes about how she has better moves than their girlfriends. She is 10 years old, for crying out loud. If this puts this into perspective, she was 5 years old in 2017 which is only 3 years before 2020.
I can’t imagine what the children, especially the girl who seems to be the point of focus, must be feeling.
I want to stop here, but let you who are reading this know a few things. Children can’t and should never be judged like adults. Yes, they may know that what they’ve done is wrong, but do they truly understand? In my opinion, they do not. The video should have never made its way to the Internet. People, adults, should have known better than to keep sharing it. Also, comments have been so distasteful that it almost makes me feel ridiculous that there is a need to state this.
What makes it worse is that these same people are claiming that this happened because the kid’s parents have employed the “modern style” of parenting on them. According to Nigerian Twitter, it means not beating their children. The typical Nigerian thinks that the way to train a child is to beat, control, and instil fear in them. If this works, I wonder why a lot of Nigerians are so badly behaved and filled with so much hate towards other people. They will say, “my parents beat me and I turned out fine”. Did you really? Then, why are you mocking and judging children who have made a mistake in such a vile way? Why are you sharing a video of the low point of children who may have their chance at innocence? Don’t you think about how this may affect them in the future? Some have gone ahead to identify (and share) the names and pictures of their children. This does not tell of adults who have “turned out fine”.
I insist that beating a child does nothing more than to let them think that violence (emotional, mental, or physical), as can be clearly seen, is fine as long as they are not the victims. Many of these adults would cry so hard and feel violated if anyone ever emotionally or physically abuses them right now. Why do you think it is fine to do that to children? Can you tell me the reason?
This article may be very lightweight because I am too emotional to talk about it clearly. I hope that someday, I will have a clear head to really delve into this.
Talk to you tomorrow.